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# Quote 1 [when asked about the worst thing he has been called] The worst thing I’ve been called. I mean, it’s less about what someone calls you, and more about who’s calling you that. So, I don’t know the answer to that question. I’m a bit impervious to the things that people say, depending on who’s saying it. I try to unflip things and have thick skin no matter what people are saying, but when people are closer to you. You know, you get into a spat with someone you care about, and they say some shit they don’t mean, or that they do mean, which makes it more emotional, but, you know – you get over it. 2 I didn’t ever have a disciplinarian in my creative life. As a young person I didn’t have – for lack of a better word – I didn’t have a Joe Jackson in my family. I didn’t have that sort of overbearing stage-parent. Or, even, I didn’t even have a parent who encouraged what I did in that way. And – don’t bring out the string section. It’s not really sad – what it did foster is, well, my attitude was pure. I love to make music, and I love to write. It was writing first. I love to write and express myself in that medium, so that was the pure part – just the love of doing something, but there was also this fantasy of what the lifestyle would be and what the trappings of success would be. There are different little montage clips that you make up in your mind, like what a day in the life would be like once you’re a fully grown whatever-you’re-going-to-become. Writing is most certainly an art form – and you have to keep balancing, juggling like circus actors, negotiating between the business and the craft. I’d almost lean toward saying that’s an art form in and of itself also. 3 I went to Tokyo, and apart from it being really hot and humid, it was one of my favorite trips. I wasn’t going there for a show or anything. I was just going to hang out. I’d been there for a couple weeks, and there’s just something about the pride that they take in their work. That, I kind of gravitate towards. I mean, not to make my response too simple, but that’s probably at the core of why I like so much of what comes out of that part of the world. They have that attitude towards their work pride and presentation. You have to be ‘work first’ for the whole benefit of the system that you’re a part of. People need to direct their energy towards making something great and useful, you know? It should common sense, but, it’s not! 4 If I didn’t live in LA I would have a much more refined daily dress-code. But since I live here, the weather’s great, but it’s also forbidding in the sense that I can’t wear a ton of layers all the time and be really slick. Be really posh and shit – wear stuff of that nature. I was looking at a place in Notting Hill. I’m kind of obsessed with the idea of moving. I’m kind of obsessed with that. I’m gonna make the move. 5 [on Nabil Elderkin] Like, when I say that about Nabil, I feel like Nabil doesn’t belong anywhere in LA County. Nabil belongs in Saint Petersburg, Russia, for a little while, or he belongs in a war zone taking iconic photos – risking his life for the shot. I think I could use a couple years away from this city – I think I could definitely use a couple years away from this city. Seven years is a long time. 6 Do I feel like I belong in LA? Here’s my feeling about LA: LA is this massive place, and you get so many types of lifestyles and shit here; you find all these pockets. Take my friend who lives in Malibu, for example – I think that’s still LA county. So, he lives in LA, but he lives in a place that doesn’t look like it’s LA. For all intents and purposes he isn’t in the same LA that I live in at my place in Hollywood – we might as well be a state apart considering how different it is. So I can see myself belonging in certain parts of LA. 7 You can’t just go and buy new pants. And then, when you discover the pants, it’s this euphoric feeling all throughout your body, because you know you found the right pants. 8 My childhood was cool. New Orleans was good to me; the city’s got a lot of character. My family is cool. I was kind of a ‘bad kid’ as far as school and stuff goes, you know – I wasn’t the greatest student – but I had a cool childhood. 9 [on being on Time Magazine’s 100 Most Influential People in the World list] This is pretty cool. The whole list is pretty rad, a pretty good assortment of folks. A very varied assortment of human beings in all different spaces and cool, very cool. 10 My mother is the strongest person I know, and the one I’ve seen in action be most selfless. 11 I hope not to define myself by suffering. I don’t worry about where [the inspiration] will come from. I think even with that cured, there’s still so much to pull from. I know people like to say that. You know, “It’s a gift and a curse.” It’s not a gift. I don’t believe that. I believe it’s just pain. The gift would be the gift whether I went through it or not. We’d just be having a different conversation. 12 Whenever I think about movies, I always look at that art process as having the best of a lot of worlds. Because if you watch a great film, you have a musical element to it, not just on the scoring, but in the way that the shots are edited – that has music and rhythm and time. Obviously the cinematography of films is art, just as a still shot can be art. If I’m watching a Wes Anderson movie, the color palettes alone, and the way they’re painted, could be art. With music you’re a little bit limited, of course, because it’s only audio. Apart from the artwork and the music videos, if you can get the label to give you money for shit like that, or if you can do it yourself. But the storytelling, that’s where you can really paint pictures. You can’t do it with a melody or a sound or a rhythm or a chord progression. The storytelling part of it is the most interesting and challenging part of the whole process for me. Some people focus more on sonics. Some people focus more on story. I focus on both sonics and story, but music sometimes, just music itself, can turn into more of a maths problem. I guess everything in life is a math problem, but it can be more about an empirical route to getting the symmetry that you want, and this vibe, sonically. But storytelling’s a different thing. 13 That’s why image is so important. That’s why you’ve got to practice brevity when you do interviews like this. I could try to make myself likable to you so you could write a piece that keeps my image in good standing, because I’m still selling this, or I could just say, “My art speaks for itself.” 14 I have no delusions about my likability, in every scenario. I know that in order to get things done the way you want them, oftentimes your position will be unpopular. 15 Here’s what I think about music and journalism: The most important thing is to just press play. All in all, I just don’t trust journalists – and I don’t think it’s a good practice for me to trust journalists. 16 I listen to my music too. I can’t usually stomach a project after I finish it, but for those days and weeks and months that it’s new to me, I do listen to it and it might change over time, but it’s about function. If I’m maybe saying something I want to say, or capture a feeling in a story, or illustrate a character that I have on my mind, anything – function first, thrill second. 17 In art, at a certain level, there is no “better than”. It’s just about trying to operate for yourself on the most supreme level, artistically, that you can and hoping that people get it. Trusting that, just because of the way people are built and how interconnected we are, greatness will translate and symmetry will be recognized. 18 Of course awards matter. It’s like a player in any ball league – NFL, NBA, whatever – you come up in these systems of organization, and you can hate the league but, at the end of the day, you can’t hate the championship. Music industry people – and, whether I like it or not, I’m a music industry person – that’s the game I came up in. The Grammys are like the championship, and that’s cool. It’s cool to be recognized by your peers. 19 Art’s everything we hope life would be, a lot of times. 20 [his feelings after he came out] The night I posted it, I cried like a fucking baby. It was like all the frequency just clicked to a change in my head. All the receptors were now receiving a different signal, and I was happy. I hadn’t been happy in so long. I’ve been sad again since, but it’s a totally different take on sad. There’s just some magic in truth and honesty and openness. Whatever I said in that letter, before I posted it, seemed so huge. But when you come out the other side, now your brain-instead of receiving fear-sees “Oh, shit happened and nothing happened.” Brain says, “Self, I’m fine.” I look around, and I’m touching my fucking limbs, and I’m good. Before anybody called me and said congratulations or anything nice, it had already changed. It wasn’t from outside. It was completely in here, in my head. 21 [on coming out and worries about if it would hurt his career] I had those fears. In black music, we’ve got so many leaps and bounds to make with acceptance and tolerance in regard to that issue. It reflects something just ingrained, you know. When I was growing up, there was nobody in my family-not even my mother-who I could look to and be like, “I know you’ve never said anything homophobic.” So, you know, you worry about people in the business who you’ve heard talk that way. Some people said, “He’s saying he fell in love with a guy for hype.” As if that’s the best hype you can get in hip-hop or black music. So I knew that if I was going to say what I said, it had to be in concert with one of the most brilliant pieces of art that has come out in my generation. And that’s what I did. Why can I say that? Why I don’t have to affect all this humility and shit is because I worked my ass off. I worked my face off. And the part that you love the most is the easiest part for me. So I’ll do it again. 22 [when asked if he was bisexual in the December 2012 edition of GQ] You can move to the next question. I’ll respectfully say that life is dynamic and comes along with dynamic experiences, and the same sentiment that I have towards genres of music, I have towards a lot of labels and boxes and shit. I’m in this business to be creative-I’ll even diminish it and say to be a content provider. One of the pieces of content that I’m for fuck sure not giving is porn videos. I’m not a centerfold. I’m not trying to sell you sex. People should pay attention to that in the letter: I didn’t need to label it for it to have impact. Because people realize everything that I say is so relatable, because when you’re talking about romantic love, both sides in all scenarios feel the same shit. As a writer, as a creator, I’m giving you my experiences. But just take what I give you. You ain’t got to pry beyond that. I’m giving you what I feel like you can feel. The other shit, you can’t feel. You can’t feel a box. You can’t feel a label. Don’t get caught up in that shit. There’s so much something in life. Don’t get caught up in the nothing. That shit is nothing, you know? It’s nothing. Vanish the fear. 23 [on challenging himself] John Mayer and I were talking in rehearsal before Saturday Night Live (1975), and he was like, “You love to take the hardest way. You don’t always have to.” We all know we have a finite period of time. I just feel if I’m going to be alive, I want to be challenged-to be as immortal as possible. The path to that isn’t an easy way, but it’s a rewarding way. 24 [on the personal importance of meeting Odd Future] I was at a real dark time in my life when I met them. I was looking for just a reprieve. At 20 or 21, I had, I think, a couple hundred thousand dollars [from producing and songwriting], a nice car, a Beverly Hills apartment-and I was miserable. Because of the relationship in part and the heartbreak in part, and also just miserable because of like just carting that around. And here was this group of like-minded individuals whose irreverence made me revere. The do-it-yourself mentality of OF really rubbed off on me. 25 [on 2012] It’s a real peaceful but active year. 26 All I really have to say is that love is all there is. Every other sentence just belabors the point. Maybe not in a boring way, I don’t know what I’m saying. 27 I sat in the studio days ago with Jay Z and Pharrell Williams. Pharrell looks 19. They seemed like old friends. I wonder how many trophies are logged in their mind. I wonder why they still build. I build things for the sport and the therapeutic benefits. 28 I wanna write a novel about twins, some type of nature versus nurture tale. I’ve said that to a neighbor before. It’s an open ended idea. I want to start a car club. I’m playing with two names for it. I sketched a logo for it. It’s not there yet. I was going to build an arcade, the more I lived with that idea the less it stuck. 29 [on being a fan of Stanley Kubrick and Steven Soderbergh] If I can do in music what they did in movies, tell those kinds of stories? That’s what I want to do. 30 If someone breaks your heart just punch them in the face. Seriously. Punch them in the face and go get some ice cream. 31 I just think R&B is so racial. I’m going to borrow a line from Duke Ellington and say it’s “beyond category.” Pharrell Williams has told me to say I’m a singer/songwriter, because that’s what I really am. I don’t want to step off into the “Don’t label me because I’m black” realm, but I would say any artist that is killing it right now has long since abandoned genre and expanded past certain labels. 32 I’m really trying to create this environment around the song that makes the listener feel like they’re in this place and they’re hearing the story and not only are they hearing it, they’re really seeing it. 33 That’s something so sincere and endearing about writing. I enjoy writing like that sometimes. I enjoy photography in a record. Creative writing coupled with what music is, just within itself, the instrumentation, the melody without any words, just humming, the emotions, the notes by themselves and together can emote, coupled with my knack for writing, there’s a power in that. 34 The writing, for me, is the easiest part-I was looking for another word besides easy-but that’s the part that’s the most natural to me. I never felt like I had a crazy, natural talent for singing. 35 It’s not about as soon as I got offers for five, ten, fifteen thousand to go do shows. It’s about getting a show ready and really doin’ a show right, and doing your best to just give your best. 36 I’m not about to go and do every feature that comes forward. I think people in the urban music scene place too much of a premium on collaborations to begin with. That’s the first thing. And second, I think that people shouldn’t be on magazines that they wouldn’t read and shouldn’t really feature on songs that they wouldn’t listen to if they weren’t on it. 37 [on Channel Orange] I wanted to do things that I hadn’t done before structurally with songs and I wanted to go different places sonically that I hadn’t gone before. I tried to make something that was true to what I heard in my head, true to what I thought the future should be for me music-wise. 38 [on the digital version of his album Channel Orange more than one week before it came out in stores] I kinda wanted to mirror what Jay Z and Kanye West did with Watch the Throne. Preventing the leak by staggering the digital and physical dates. My thing was, I wanted all the promotional elements to be- I don’t know if the word is ‘retroactive,’ but kind of follow the album with the videos and the tour and do everything after. And kind of just let the music speak for itself for a second and not be in a situation where the record leaked. It was always my plan to drop it ahead of physical. 39 [on what inspires his songs] guess I’m just inspired to tell stories and I enjoy music and just the art form so much, that it seems like the perfect medium to tell stories. And in my life, times that I’ve enjoy and that mean a lot to me, I often go back to them. So when I’m making music, that’s really all you can draw off of when your storytelling is your own experiences and memories and personal wisdom and knowledge. When I pull from that place it comes along with pictures. And when I’m trying to make song, even the parts that don’t have words it’s still me really trying to make a photograph out of something you could never see. 40 Odd Future is comprised of gifted and talented American kids. We challenge each other. They challenge me for sure. Whenever you’re in a circle that’s talented throughout, it makes less room for complacency. My purpose is to contribute to that productive environment as much as I can. 41 LA is something special to me. LA is special because I wrote Channel Orange here, I wrote Nostalgia, Ultra here, I fell in love here, I got my heart broken here, I got a little famous here, I got a paid here. 42 For a song like “Crack Rock”, my grandfather, who had struggled to be a father for my mom and my uncle. His second chance at fatherhood was me. In his early-20s, he had a host of problems with addiction and substance abuse. When I knew him, he was a mentor for the NA and the AA groups. I used to go to the meetings and hear these stories from the addicts – heroin and crack and alcohol. So stories like that influence a song like that. 43 [on his song “Pyramids”] I have actual pimps in my family in LA. It was fantasy built off that dynamic, but you can only write what you know to a point. 44 I’ve always wanted to make a career in the arts, and I think that my only hope at doing that is to make it more about the work. I enjoy singing my songs in front of people. I enjoy being involved in making the artwork for albums and stupid stuff like that. I wouldn’t be a part of [it] if I was just writing songs for others. 45 I knew that I was writing in a way that people would ask questions. I knew that my star was rising, and I knew that if I waited I would always have somebody that I respected be able to encourage me to wait longer, to not say it till who knows when. It was important for me to know that when I go out on the road and I do these things, that I’m looking at people who are applauding because of an appreciation for me. I don’t have many secrets, so if you know that, and you’re still applauding it may be some sort of sick validation but it was important to me. When I heard people talking about certain, you know, ‘pronouns’ in the writing of the record, I just wanted to – like I said on the post [his Tumblr post where he addressed his sexuality] offer some clarity; clarify, before the fire got too wild and the conversation became too unfocused and murky. 46 [on why he doesn’t put his name on his album covers] As a lifestyle you always being the focal point is innately unhealthy. 47 The work is the work. The work is not me. I like the anonymity that directors can have about their films. Even though it’s my voice, I’m a storyteller. 48 I want to give the best show possible when I can and put myself in a position to just do my best. So if that means a lesser volume of appearances then so be it. I’m in this thing, whatever it is, I hate to call it a game because I take it pretty seriously but I’m in it for as long as I’m allowed to be. It’s not about “let’s do a million things right now”. It’s about “let’s just do our best to do the best things right now”. 49 I’m extremely compassionate, loving, all of those warm fuzzy things, but the outer shell doesn’t project that all the time. 50 With my art, it’s the one thing that I know will outlive me and outlive my feelings. It will outlive my depressive seasons. 51 [on how he remains a pop star mystery] It’s not formulaic. It’s not me necessarily trying to preserve mystique. It’s who I am. It’s how I prefer to move. I really don’t think that deeply about it at all, I swear I don’t. I’m just existing. 52 [his statement when he had to cancel his European tour dates, including opening slot for Coldplay] Let me start by staying I feel like an asshole right now, but a tough decision had to be made in regard to my schedule over the next months and the casualties of that decision include my appearances at upcoming festivals in Europe and my opening slot on the European leg of the Coldplay world tour. I’ll be back if you’ll have me. 53 [on the making of his mixtape, Nostalgia, Ultra] It was like difficult to make. Not like writing the songs arranging the songs. That had a level of difficulty, too. But just piecing together all the levels to do it at the level, the quality of records I wanted to make. But, it was a process I appreciate so much. 54 [on his mixtape, Nostalgia, Ultra] It’s nostalgic. It’s a longing for the past. That’s what this record felt like. I named it five minutes before we finished mastering. Right before we had to write the labels on the CDs and get out of there. Ultra, because it’s also modern because of the sonics of it. It felt right. That’s how I am. I just go with it. The only big debate was whether I was going to use the slash or the comma, but the comma felt right, too. 55 [on whether he should have changed the pronouns of his songs to make them generic] Yes, I could have easily changed the words. But for what? I just feel like it’s just another time now. When you write a song like “Forrest Gump”, the subject can’t be androgynous. It requires an unnecessary amount of effort. I don’t fear anybody at all. 56 When you’re happy, you enjoy the music. But when you’re sad, you understand the lyrics. 57 [on Don Henley threatening to sue him over his “Hotel California” sample on the track “American Wedding” from Nostalgia, Ultra] He [They] threatened to sue if I perform it again. I think that’s fucking awesome. I guess if I play it at Coachella it’ll cost me a couple hundred racks. If I don’t show up to court, it’ll be a judgment against me and will probably show up on my credit report. Oh well. I try to buy my shit cash anyway. They asked that I release a statement expressing my admiration for Mr. Henley, along with my assistance pulling it off the web as much as possible. Shit’s weird. Ain’t this guy rich as fuck? Why sue the new guy? I didn’t make a dime off that song. I released it for free. If anything I’m paying homage. 58 I’m an artist, first and foremost. I don’t like boxes. Whether you’re singing or rapping or spoken word, any combination you love, the lyrics sheet should always read well. So that’s how I approach everything, no matter what I’m doing. 59 My music definitely comes from a place of experience. Everything connects to a truth. Heartbreak, I imagine, has been the same emotion since the beginning of it all. I think the reason it might sound different coming from me is because, as a storyteller I might be telling the story differently than how it’s been told. But I don’t think I’m telling a new story. Maybe I’m wrong. 60 [on his relationship with Odd Future] That’s family. I’ve known them from before all the attention. I met them at the end of 2009. I don’t keep a journal or anything like that, so I don’t remember dates and times that I met folks, but it’s all through creativity. That’s how we clicked. It’s like how you meet anyone else. I guess social networking is a part of how people meet these days, but that’s not how this happened. It was more like a person-to-person, mutual friends, sort of thing. 61 I think my creativity comes from a really pure place. I feel at a higher level of consciousness when I’m being creative. 62 [on why he doesn’t do much press] It seems healthier to be a little more reclusive. I rely heavily on my art form and letting that speak for me and what I do. 63 It’s about the stories. If I write 14 stories that I love, then the next step is to get the environment of music around it to best envelop the story and all kinds of sonic goodness. 64 There was a point where I was composing for other people, and it might have been comfy to continue to do that and enjoy that income stream and the anonymity. But that’s not why I moved away from school and away from family. 65 [on Hurricane Katrina, which devastated his city and his recording facilities] The storm itself didn’t make me move, but the storm ruined my recording environment and the studio I was working in got looted and destroyed by floodwater. I didn’t have a place to work in New Orleans so I left and came to LA. 66 [on changing his name] I changed my name on my birthday last year. It was the most empowering shit I did in 2010, for sure. I went on LegalZoom and changed my name. It just felt cool. None of us are our names. If you don’t like your name then change your name. I’m only a few steps into the process, so I probably shouldn’t even be talking about this, but by the beginning of summer I’ll be straight. I’ll be boarding planes as Christopher Francis Ocean. 67 The core message of my music is to encourage people to think differently about their relationships. Not just romantic relationships, but as people, period. 68 [on being fearless about his sexual declaration] People are just afraid of things too much. Afraid of things that don’t necessarily merit fear. Me putting Nostalgia out. What’s physically going to happen? Me saying what I said on my Tumblr last week? Sure, evil exists, extremism exists. Somebody could commit a hate crime and hurt me. But they could do the same just because I’m black. They could do the same just because I’m American. Do you just not go outside your house? Do you not drive your car because of the statistics? How else are you limiting your life for fear? 69 [about his sexuality and coming out before the release of his album][It was] about my own sanity and my ability to feel like I’m living a life where. I’m happy when I wake up in the morning, and not with this freaking’ boulder on my chest. I knew that I was writing [the album] in a way that people would ask questions. I knew that my star was rising, and I knew that if I waited I would always have somebody that I respected be able to encourage me to wait longer, to not say it till who knows when. I wished at 13 there was somebody I looked up to who would have said something like that, who would have been transparent in that way. 70 My generation just doesn’t have the best taste in leadership. And weak leadership means little to no cohesion. If there’s no cohesion, there’s no real chance for effective protest or politics. Obviously, looking at Occupy Wall Street, there are a few in our bunch who still give a damn enough to rally and shout. This will change once I’m elected President. 71 I’ll usually cringe at the R&B label. Because it’s like calling it urban and what the fuck is urban music? 72 Four summers ago, I met somebody. I was nineteen years old. He was too. We spent that summer, and the summer after, together. Everyday almost. And on the days we were together, time would glide. Most of the day I’d see him and his smile, I’d hear his conversation and his silence until it was time to sleep. Sleep I would often share with him. By the time I realized I was in love, it was malignant. It was hopeless. I sat there and told my friend how I felt. I wept as the words left my mouth. I grieved for them, knowing I could never take them back for myself. He patted my back. He said kind things. He did his best, but he wouldn’t admit the same. He had to go back inside soon. It was late and his girlfriend was waiting for him upstairs. He wouldn’t tell me the truth about his feelings for me for another three years. I felt like I’d only imagined reciprocity for years. Now imagine being thrown from a cliff. No, I wasn’t on a cliff, I was still in my car telling myself it was gonna be fine and to take deep breaths. I took the breaths and carried on. I kept up a peculiar friendship with him because I couldn’t imagine keeping up my life without him. I struggled to master myself and my emotions. I wasn’t always successful. Before writing this I’d told some people my story. I’m sure these people kept me alive, kept me save sincerely, these are the folks I wanna thank from the floor of my heart. Everyone of you knows who you are great humans, probably angels. I don’t know what happens now, and that’s alright. I don’t have any secrets I need kept anymore. There’s probably some small shit still, but you know what I mean. I was never alone, as much as I felt like it as much as I still do sometimes. I never was. I don’t think I ever could be. Thanks. To my first love. I’m grateful for you. Grateful that even though it wasn’t what I hoped for and even though it was never enough, it was. Some things never are and we were. I won’t forget you. I won’t forget the summer. I’ll remember who I was when I met you. Thanks. To my mother, you raised me strong. I know I’m only braved because you were first … so thank you. All of you. For everything good. I feel like a free man. If I listen closely I can hear the sky falling too.

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